It has become increasingly popular for the bride and groom to request a donation toward something (such as the honeymoon, a house, car...) instead of a wedding gift. Most often this is done through a poem for a money tree, wishing well, savings pot, wedding chest, bird cage etc and below I have included a selection of these poems. It will give you some ideas and you can edit the wording to suit your individual circumstances.
So what do you get
For the Bride and Groom
Whose house needs things
In every room?
When shopping for a present
Please, don’t be rash
As the option is there
To just give cash!
We hope that you don’t find
Our request to be funny
But the decision is yours
To buy a present, or give money
Now you have the choice
Please do not fuss
The most important thing of all
Is that you come celebrate with us!
We are sending out this invitation,
And hope you will join our celebration.
If to send a gift is your intention,
In modesty we would like to mention,
We have our dishes and towels for two,
We have pots and pans and oven mitts too,
So rather than something we have already got,
Our suggestion is a little something for our saving pot.
But, most importantly, we request,
That you turn up as our wedding guest,
As we are united by God hand in hand,
To celebrate our joining, Forever we’ll stand.
To save you looking,
shopping and buying,
Here is an idea
we hope you'll like trying!
Come to our wedding
to wish us both well,
And make some use
of our little wishing well.
Just put some money into a card,
Now make a wish....
See, that wasn't hard!
Now that we have saved you all of the fuss,
We hope that you will come
And celebrate with us!
If finding a gift is hard to do
our wishing well is just for you!
A gift of money is placed in the well,
then make a wish but do not tell!
If it is however a gift you find,
please feel assured
we will not mind
Our house is quite complete now,
We’ve been together long,
So please consider this request,
And do not take it wrong.
A wishing well will be present
On the day we wed,
And if you choose in lieu of a present,
You may give a monetary gift instead.
Make a wish upon your gift,
And be careful as you do,
Because as the well’s tradition goes,
Your wishes may come true.
We made a commitment some time ago
that together through life we were destined to go.
We purchased our furniture, linen and bedding,
in the fulfilling years leading up to our wedding.
What else we might need is not easy to foresee,
but what might help us in the future is a deposit on our Giving Tree.
Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don't need a wedding list of dishes
We have two kettles, two toasters, a microwave
We require a house for which we have to save.
If you would like to give us a monetary gift this would give us a lift
We like to think of it as our "Wishing Well"
Which will be filled with your love, we can tell.
Soon you will hear our wedding bell, As friends and family wish us well. Our household thoughts are not brand new, We have twice the things we need for two. Since we have our share of dishes and bedding, We're having instead a wishing-well wedding. But more important we ask of you, Your prayers of love and blessings too!
In our house we have the things
that living together normally brings
most household items we've already bought
and because of this reason we thought
A wishing well would be great
(only if guests wish to participate)
A gift of money is placed in an envelope
so in the future we hope
to furnish our home to its very best
and always remember it was due to our guests.
(Bride) & (Groom)'s worldly possessions are plentiful as such,
on their wedding present list there isn't really much.
Their home is quite complete, as they've been together so long
So please consider our request , but do not take it wrong.
On this special day, the day they'll be wed
There's a register for gifts , or give money instead.
A gilded cage will be on display at the reception hall
To deposit your wishes for the couple with love from all.
An envelope will be provided for those who have room
To bestow a gift upon the bride & groom.
This delicate request, we hope you understand
Please ponder over this, to give their married life a hand.
Many of our guests have enquired
For a gift idea to be inspired
Like may couples today
We have most things anyway
If you would like to give, it is our request
For something for our treasure chest
A gift of money you can afford
Is just what we need you can be assured
More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,
Our home has been made with Love and Care,
Most things we need we’ve already got,
And in our home we can’t fit a lot!
A donation to our wishing well would be great,
But only if you wish to participate.